Monthly Archives: February 2013

What a snotty nose!

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We all have a bit of the “snotty nose”. I believe it all originated from Mr.D and his preschool pals. Only so much hand washing can be done from a thumb sucking, chapped hand, five year old.

It quickly spread to Dragon and then me. Go figure! Even having some congestion, our Dragon is all smiles. Lets hope Hubby doesn’t catch it…currently holding the title of the biggest and grumpiest baby in the house.

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Can you take her back now?

The family was spending a lazy Sunday at home. Hubby reading the paper, Ms.A reading a book, Dragon taking a nap, and me attempting to catch one. Just as I was about to close my eyes, Mr.D comes up to me and asks…

“Can we send her back now?”

He caught me off guard and I was speechless. Hubby and I look at each other. Where was this coming from? We have been home six weeks and I never thought this would come from his mouth. Here I had thought that we did all the right things in preparing the kids for their sister. We never ask them to help with her, watch her, or play with her. Once we got back from China our routine went quickly back to normal and Dragon had to go with the flow of the family. Nothing has been changed, refused, or denied because of having a new baby in the house. I really thought that we handled the whole transition of adding a child to the family well….

It was a know fact that Ms.A was having some slight issues before we left for China. She was concerned that she would not get any attention. That we were replacing her. That she would not be able to do anything because of the new baby. However, her feelings seem to be a combination of being a preteen and having to grow up versus from an actual disruption in her life because of her new sister. We had spoken to her extensively and let her know that we heard her concerns.

When she traveled with us to China to pick Dragon up, I had hoped that those feelings would disappear. Ms.A was able to see and participate in the first few days Dragon was with us. She and Dragon formed a special link because of this. I thought we were good. Ms.A has been a loving sister to Dragon and the negative comments seemed to have disappeared.

But…. when we parents do any reprimanding, she gets upset and the first comments said back are about being replaced. We continue talking it through with her, yet it seems like when we think we have a handle, it gets brought back up. Nor, does it help when everyone keeps bringing up the topic to her of how she is doing. It is becoming “drama to feed off of” and we are being very mindful on how we handle it.

So…I didn’t expect Mr.D to say something of this nature. He seems to be the best adjusted. Always excited to introduce his sister and tell that he is a big brother. Always ready to play with her. Always peeking in her room and whispering on the monitor her status of sleep.

He then proceeded to say.

“Lets send her back to her mommy and then maybe we can get a boy. A baby brother for me!”

Wait a minute…

“Ms.A said Dragon was on her team and I want a boy for my team!”

O.K., I get it now… After an explanation of….I am Dragon’s mommy and you are her brother and there is no trade in or give backs allowed. I then proceeded to tell him that we are a forever family and all the great benefits of having both a little sister and a big one.

He listened to me. He then asked if I was done. I nodded yes and off he went. He seemed satisfied with the answers I gave him…

If only everything would be so easily explained and answered…

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What do you have now?

Nala is feeling a little neglected since the baby has arrived.

At least that is what Hubby says and he is such a dog whisperer.

Of courses due to the severe neglect she is suffering (ya right), Hubby decides on a trip to the pet store with Mr.D. Which turned into a complete tour and examination of the entire store and creatures within….Ending with a “boys” lunch afterwards…. All for the sake of neglected Nala.

What was the result of this shopping trip, other than a yummy lunch away from the girls….

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Yes, that’s right, every dog needs a stuffed pheasant that makes the most obnoxious noise. I can’t even describe it. Maybe between a squeak and honking? All I know is that it is loud!

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Put on your Mittens!

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Why mittens in the house you ask?

Mr.D is starting a new fashion trend…
Mr.D is practicing for a spectacular puppet show…
Mr.D is trying to break his thumb sucking habit cold turkey…
Mr.D has found a better way to wipe a runny nose…
Mr.D decided to stop washing hands and just change out into fresh mittens…

Oh, it’s to early in the morning to be so creative.

Mr.D in reality has very bad chapped hands. We have tried all sorts of lotions and potions and nothing seems to help. So, I find this super thick orange gel/lotion to lather on his hands. It is so greasy and messy that I regretted putting it on him. For the sake of a grease free house, door knobs, toys, chairs… You get the picture… I put on his mittens and tell him not to take them off before he gets to school. (They have seen worse at school.)

Like I said, it’s early in the morning and I am not very creative…

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11 months of a Dragon!

Little Dragon is 11 months old now and is really starting to grow. We have had custody of her since December 31st and have been home with her since January 10th. I thought it would be a great opportunity to post an update on her progress.

She has gained two pounds in the last month and is weighing in at 18 pounds, putting her in the 10th percentile. Its amazing what some food can do. She currently wears nine month clothing, with some things that are in the twelve month size. Her diaper size is three and yes there is a HUGE difference in brand! To bad for me that I have to work through a case of the wrong brand…

Gross motor skills are really improving. She can official roll with a purpose, yet always ends up under the coffee table. We are still not able to leave her unattended while sitting up. She topples over at any moment and makes no attempt to stop herself. She bears weight on her legs like a champ and would literally jump off if you weren’t holding tight.

On the fine motor side, she has figured out that she can grab things with her hands and pull or even throw what she has acquired. It’s lots of fun playing the game “pick up the toy, spoon, food before Nala gets it.” Even more fun pulling at Ms.A hair. She has not figured out the pincher skill, which would be the next step to self feeding. Lastly, she has found her feet. I was told that this was a stage in development and I am pleased she has hit that mark.

Her current toy preference are the stacking rings, some crinkle toys, and her mirror. Go figure on the mirror!

She is eating three meals a day now. Baby yogurt and a bottle for breakfast. At lunch she gobbles up half a jar of a fruit and a vegetable with a bottle. For dinner she eats the other half of the fruit and vegetable with another bottle. Then right before bed she gets one more bottle. She has eaten puffs when they are placed in her mouth, but has yet to pick them up on her own. Finally, she loves to try to drink from your glass. Most of it runs down her face, but she thinks it is great fun.

Medically she looks great. We just have to do a major catch up on ALL the vaccinations. We made a plan of going in every two weeks until we are caught up. Dragon gets all her medical needs meet by our family pediatrician, but we have decided to seek consult from an adoption clinic at our local children’s hospital. This was the best decision we have made to date. The clinic specializes in internationally adopted children and knows what to look for, test for, and be aware of with little ones from China. They set us up with a few more test that our pediatrician omitted. Gave us a written plan for getting through her immunizations. They also gave us a referral to have a specialist check out her eyes and to get a full hearing screening done.

I really feel that I have covered everything possible on the medical side. They also were able to discuss the sleeping issues with us and give us some advice to work with.

Developmentally she is functioning between four months and six months. Dragon has qualified for services through Help Me Grow and will start receiving speech, occupational, and physical therapy in March. We will be going to the Achievement Center where Mr.D went.

She still loves to blow raspberries and can make a few more sounds… Dada, Yaya, Mama, Nana. She loves to make noises and the louder the environment, the louder she gets. The one exception is church. She makes her presence known the entire time. I even had a stranger come up to us in Target who recognized us from church.

Our Little Dragon is doing great! We are so pleased with her progress and how well she has bonded. Just last week she feel asleep all cuddled up in Hubby’s arms! A major step for someone who was not keen on being held.

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Piles of paper!

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This is what seven years of adoption paperwork looks like. I decided that today I would go through all of it and get it organized. I threw out all the instruction for forms, all the samples, and all the unnecessary stuff. I then shredded all the duplicates or personal info that is no longer needed. I managed to get it down to this…

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It took me one entire nap time, but I am happy that it is done. Dragon will now have a nice organized keepsake of our paper journey to her.

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My ears are bleeding!

How can such a little person have such a loud and piercing scream?

For how sweet and good nature she is during the day, she is the opposite at night. Our nights are getting out of hand. I am surviving on little sleep and when mommy doesn’t sleep….that is no good for the whole family. Ms.A and Mr.D have really good sleep habits and have great night time routines. Why am I having such a problem with our littlest one?

I can tell you that each night it is getting worse and worse. I am trying to be very consistent, keep a food journal, watch her day time napping, keeping things calm and low key before bedtime…..

She is a champ at her daytime naps. No big fusses, just puts her little head down and off to sleep. You would think that at night it would be the same. I do everything the same. The room is set up the same. The lighting, the sound, the temp….everything! Yet, she screams as soon as she goes down. Not a cry…a SCREAMING…YELLING…THRASHING FIT. There is absolutely no soothing her. If you pick her up she goes rigid and intensifies. If you try to rub or pat her to calm her down, the same reaction.

It is breaking my heart to see her in these fits and nothing that I do seems to help. Last night Hubby actually pulled me out of the nursery and closed the door. We just waited it out. Several hours later of on and off crying, she went quiet out of pure exhaustion.

This can’t be the solution.

I refuse to have this be the solution.

There has to be something I can do.

Thursday we go to the pediatrician for her one month check up. This will be a huge discussion point. I am not a novice mom, but I feel like one.

Any ideas or suggestions would be gladly accepted.

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